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In our country, we do sex. But we don't want to talk about it and that is why we have a billion population. In our close-knit society, we have to enlight and create awareness among our children." ____Indian Health Minister Anbumani Ramadoss (read the
article here )
Welcome to our double standards (
remember my state, Kerala, was to have the highest literacy and best healthcare.... borne out by the fact that the community would not allow HIV+ kids to go to school). While you are at it, dear minister, can you also do something about our large number of prostitutes (clinically called, Commercial Sex Workers or CSW... so that we are not reminded of who they are). For decades we have been talking about legalizing the profession, giving them the status of human beings rather than pigs in a pig farm. India is rapidly doing things about child labour, environment, etc. How about the world's (and India's) oldest profession. Give them legitimacy, so that they too can work within the law and have access to rights and legal redressal.
I personally remember my dad having a man to man talk about the birds and the bees when I was finishing school. Of course, I feigned ignorance..... thats the right thing to do. My father ended his talk by saying "
perhaps you are too young and you will learn all about this when your hormones start working." At sixteen.....give me a break!! I needed the talk when I was 10 years old and all my friends were talking about it. At sixteen I am sure I could give my DAD a few tips!!
I have no idea why modern society holds on to the myth of INNOCENT CHILDHOOD. Childhood is far from innocent. Some of the conversations we had at 11-12 would make most of my adult friends blush. Perhaps we had not learnt yet...what is to be talked about and what is not.
I think today the internet is a boon. My children had unfettered access to internet since they were old/young enough to read (how much do we read now, I wonder?). I remember once one of my kids asked me a question about such stuff and I told him. "
Look there is a reason why I have given you a computer in your room and free access to the internet....WITHOUT PARENTAL CONTROLS. If you try to find the answer and you can't, let me know." Of course their mother didnt know about WHY there is a computer in the kids rooms or why sometimes they lock the door.
So let me make a statement:
CHILDREN ARE NOT INNOCENT. THEY CERTAINLY ARE NOT STUPID.
Until the late 20th century, it was women who were supposed to be innocent and pure. They were not allowed to vote, to work, hell... they werent even allowed to have orgasms. Now we are doing it to another group, our children. Do we have a NEED to keep our "innocence" protected, by projecting it on to a subgroup of the society. Why do we keep up an image of children that is sooo far removed from reality? I wonder if the word "childhood" refers to an experience of the growing child or a designation given to them from the outside. A designation we use to re-interpret a set of memories from our early life. RE-INTERPRETED, not remembered.
Labels: childhood, innocence, sex